The fact is that there are millions of women out there who could make you happy.
If you know counseling isn't going to work, stop having intimate relations with your wife.
I will not do anything until I can figure out what I need to do with my marriage.
Should she never respond, well then we know that the relationship is over.
You must know this because the first thing some women do is to wallow in self-blame.
When he leaves you for someone else, the reason could be that you do not fit into his social circle.
I am unsure of what to do.
Burn, destroy, give away everything she ever gave you or anything like that nature.